What’s Different about a Bereavement Quilt?
I live in the Northwest and I make bereavement quilts. I fell into making them by accident when I helped a customer finish a bereavement quilt someone else had started but was unable to finish. I found out that I loved doing it, and gradually it became my major focus. Many regular quilters don’t want to bother with clothes, no matter how skilled they may be. But I enjoy the variety and the challenge. I like working with different types of fabrics, I’m excited by seeing a bunch of clothes I’ve never seen before magically become a quilt, but most of all I love being able to help folks when they most need it. Bereavement quilts provide all these aspects.
First the Clothes
Most new customers want to know what the process is for getting their quilt made. The first aspect is getting the clothes of their loved one to me. The rest is merely a process. Getting the clothes chosen, packed and shipped off can be an incredibly difficult task. For some it can take years. I wait as long as it takes.
Once I get the clothes, the process begins. The quilt at the top of this blog was the second quilt I made for Bob from his brother’s amazing Hawaiian shirts. The first one was for his brother’s wife (see below) The one above I later made for him.
I usually design my quilts using a software program (Electic Quilt 7). I make one or two mockups of designs for customer’s approval. The one below I sent to Bob, which he approved. The design was similar to the one I’d already made for his sister which he had liked.
Problems with Mockups
- Mockups require a lot of imagination. Note that the fabrics used throughout this one are different from the actual ones in the final quilt (at the top). My program has a library of fabrics to choose from and I do my best to match them, but usually I’m wide off the mark.
- I’d like to be able to show a double frame for each block, but I can’t so instead I warn my customers to overlook this flaw. Note in the actual quilt (see below), the frames are made with various ties (some of Bob’s and some of his brother’s) which form a double frame. In the sister-in-law’s quilt, I used her husband’s plain blue shirts as framing fabric.
- Other limitations exist, such as the inability to portray pictures such as in a pictorial quilt.
Construction of Quilt
Once the mockup is approved and I’m ready to got forward with the quilt, I construct the top – the patchwork – and then add whatever type of border the quilt requires. In this case I wanted to rim the quilt with tie swatches.
Final Completion of Quilt
And finally I quilt it. But before this last process is possible I must choose a backing. Sometimes the choice is left up to me, other times the customer chooses the backing themselves, but often I’ll give the customer a choice from backings I have on hand. Below is one of Bob’s choices:
Once I have the backing, I quilt the three layers using a batting of my own choice on my Millenium long-arm quilting machine. I bind the quilt, sealing it with an embroidered stitch, label it and have it delivered to the customer. In Bob’s case, he didn’t need a label. The label below is one of my most popular requests: