Various types of bereavement quilts I’ve made are shown in this section to help you choose which works best for you. Quilts appear in the following sequence. Bereavement quilts that are either t-shirt or tie quilts are shown under those two headings.
Traditional Bereavement Quilts
Sleeping under a quilt made from the clothes of your lost one can be very helpful in the painful process of grieving. The design of such a quilt can be left up to me or it can be a collaborative effort. Below are some of the traditional bed quilts I’ve made:
Helping her Girls with the Loss of their Young Father
Cheryl lost her husband suddenly when he was only 40 years old. Her daughters Lizzie and Chloe were very close to their father and Cheryl wanted to do something positive to help her girls. She sent me a huge box of shirts of all kinds, but I discovered he had an equal number of light and dark shirts, which cried out “log cabin quilts”. Below is the first quilt I made for the youngest daughter Lizzie:
Bereavement log cabin quilt made for Lizzie from her dad’s shirts
Lizzie had chosen her dad’s red bandana from her quilt, which I used as the centerpiece for each block.
Chloe had chosen a blue bandana, which I used in her quilt. Chloe is a gifted figure skater, so I made a figure eight in the center of her quilt:
Bereavement log cabin quilt made for Chloe out of her Dad’s shirts
Trousers were used for the borders of all three quilts.
The last log cabin quilt was made for Cheryl:
Bereavement log cabin quilt made for Cheryl out of her husband Eric’s shirts
Raising two daughters suddenly on her own, dealing with her own grief as well as theirs, Cheryl is an amazing woman struggling in a difficult situation. She wrote: “… I love when I look at my log cabin that I picture the shirts and I picture Eric in the shirts… The quilts are so great to have around – much better than a sad closet full of clothes. This was one of the nicest things I could have done for myself. I just can’t get over it.”
I also made three t-shirt throws for Cheryl and the girls, which I am displaying on the Bereavement T-Shirt page.
Mother, Daughter, Granddaughter
Sarah sent me 54 shirts belonging to her father, whom she was very close to and missed very much. I first made the following simple quilt for her mother, who had chosen most of the shirts for her husband and I knew she would recognize each separate block of material:
Bereavement quilt made for wife out of 54 of her husband’s shirts
The centerpiece contains a beloved poem printed on fabric with embellishments made from several ties belonging to her husband:
Center of bereavement quilt made of ties and a print of her favorite poem
For Sarah, I made a large quilt that was slightly smaller than a bed-sized quilt, but managed to use 50 of the 54 shirts. The poem that both mother and daughter loved was embroidered around the border of Sarah’s quilt.
Bereavement quilt for daughter made from father’s shirts
Below is a detail of Sarah’s quilt, showing the embroidery and the quilting pattern:
Detail of Sarah’s Bereavement quilt
Last, but not least, is Charlotte’s “beautiful yellow quilt”. Charlotte was two when this quilt was made for her. I got the idea from a quilt designed by Kaffe Fassett, although I didn’t follow his pattern rigorously.
Charlotte’s bereavement quilt made from granddaddy’s shirts
Below is a picture of Charlotte on her quilt, with her mother’s quilt below it.
Charlotte sitting on her quilt
One reason Charlotte calls this quilt her “beautiful yellow quilt” is that the back is made out of yellow minky, soft and luscious.
Back of Charlotte’s quilt
A Mother’s Gift to her Kids
Above are some of the 52 shirts and trousers that I received when commissioned to make a number of bereavement quilts for a young family who had lost their father. I checked through the clothes and came up with about five designs each for Luke and Lisanna, ages 9 and 7.
Luke’s Quilt – I first made the Log Cabin Quilt (one version) below for Luke:
Most of the shirts were so well cared for they looked new, but the turquoise one used above had to be a favorite, for it was frayed around the cuffs. It was one of my favorites as well. All the material used in this quilt except the backing came from the father’s shirts and trousers.
Lisanna’s Quilt – I made a Ribbon Quilt for Lisanna, using two different shirts for each color except the orange middle.
This was a deceptive pattern, since I had to be very careful about the pieces I used, making sure that they were the same throughout. It goes much quicker if you have only one material for each color, instead of two. But the result is stunning, I believe.
I was told that the kids loved their quilts. See below for a picture of how they felt when they got their quilts (I made Lisanna a small throw so she would have a quilt for now. I did the same for her brother).
One Family – Three Quilts – A Collaborative Effort
Bereavement Quilt for Nancy made from husband’s clothes
A family lost their beloved husband/father at the age of 50. The mother’s queen-size quilt was made from eight shirts and two pairs of trousers and featured a unique design chosen by the mother. The outer border was fashioned from black dress jeans her husband was wearing on their first date.
Bereavement Quilt for Tess
The second quilt was a queen-sized quilt for the daughter, which featured a beautiful butterfly design chosen by the teen-aged daughter, who also chose the color blue for her contrasting fabric. i
Bereavement quilt detail – Family quilt made from flannel pieces
In the third quilt, made for both mother and daughter to share, I chose the double wedding ring design and used three flannel shirts and a pair of his flannel pajamas. Forest green flannel was chosen by the client for the background.
The quilt shown above is a good example of a contemporary quilt, although I believe all quilts have their roots in the past. This beauty was the brainchild of my customer who wanted a quilt made for her mother using her mother’s father’s clothes. She wanted the buttons on his shirts to show in some blocks as well as some of the pockets and of course other memorabilia from her grandfather’s life as a pilot.
Bereavement quilt – Cathie’s tribute to her son Ben
This contemporary quilt takes traditional blocks (Mariner’s Compass, Snail’s Trail) and combines them with family pictures, photos of Ben, memorabilia, logos from shirts, and family treasures such as bits of his baby blanket (at the top) and part of his christening outfit (center of quilt). Really, contemporary is simply bringing the past up to the present time.
Other Contemporary Quilts
Below are more quilts I would consider contemporary, even though most of them contain elements of the traditional quilt:
Bereavement quilt – Lindsay’s quilt
One of thirteen quilts made for a large extended family from the clothes of the mother of my customer Deonna. This is certainly a more contemporary use of the traditional block. And the mother’s clothes were gorgeous and inspiring.
Bereavement quilt – Matthew’s quilt
Matthew’s quilt is very contemporary. Although it contains a rich array of velvet, satin, and silk as well as cotton knit and embellished jacket material, it still is very appropriate for this lady’s grandson.
Bereavement quilt – Ernie’s quilt
This quilt was made for the grown son, using more of the masculine colors and materials. A contemporary play on the rail fence motif, it also spans the ages.
Bereavement quilt – Trina’s quilt
Trina’s quilt is a playful quilt – using the well known Bento Box pattern, which is an modern version of the log cabin design.
Bereavement quilt – Meagan’s quilt
Meagan’s quilt illustrates how a simple pattern can become a gorgeous quilt.
Pictorial Quilts – Each a Unique Design
Tree of Life
Bereavement Quilt made from Chef’s Clothes
This quilt was made entirely from the jackets and pants of a world class chef. Katie fought cancer all her life but managed to do more her short life than most. Only in her thirties at the time of her death, she was working for Cirque du Soleil and was also a mother and an accomplished pianist. Her mother chose the theme, and only the red for the cranes and the slim border were added materials. This quilt is a great example of collaboration between my customers and myself in creating the perfect quilt.
Bora Bora Quilt
Bereavement quilt made for Marge from sleeves of husband’s shirts – Scene set in Bora Bora on their honeymoon
Marge wanted a simple picture – a calm and restful scene of Bora Bora where she and her husband had spent their honeymoon only three years before her husband died and she wanted the quilt to be made only from the sleeves of the shirts and jackets, so that she would feel as if her husband’s arms were around her when wrapped in her quilt.
Cabin in Bora Bora made from tie and handkerchief worn during wedding ceremony
There was one exception to the “only shirt sleeves” request: the tie and handkerchief that Bill wore at the wedding were included. From them I made the Bora Bora hut shown in the detail above.
The Forest Quilt
Bereavement Quilt – Forest View for Son
The quilt above was one of two quilts made from a mother’s beautiful clothes and gifted to a daughter and a son from their father. Gloria loved the woods, so for the son, I made a view of the forest surrounding their home (with artistic license – there was no stream). Thirty items of clothing were used to make this quilt and I deliberately had the water flow right off the quilt. I copied Ruth B. McDowell’s method of paper piecing the background (read more under Appliqued Quilts in my Blog) and then appliqued extra details onto the finished patchwork.
The Dancing Lady Quilt
Gloria also loved to dance. The quilt for the daughter embodied the dance theme. I chose the image of a dancing lady soaring in the sky with a setting sun in the background. As Gloria had to her family, this lady embodies the feeling of hope and spirit.
This quilt combines the traditional quilt (with a split 9 x 3 inch block) with the art quilt – in this case the lady dancing amongst the bluebirds. About twenty different items were used to make this quilt, many of them t-shirts or knits. Also, I changed the background from sunset to sunrise so that I could mirror the night sky in the deep of the sea.
Closeups of the quilt are shown below. To enlarge the pictures, doubleclick on any picture.
Pictorial Quilts for a Son and a Daughter
Bereavement Wall Hanging – Campsite Picture for Son
When my good friend Howard died after fighting cancer off for years, his wife Dee wanted picture quilts made for her grown son and daughter. The wall hanging above uses Howard’s clothes to depict a father-son camping trip. I copied a sketch that Dee had drawn some time ago and had forgotten about – it was among the many pictures I borrowed in order to make the quilts.
Bereavement Wall Hanging – Campsite Picture for Son
Carol’s Bereavement Quilt – Scene is Dad’s favorite place
For their daughter Carol, I made fabric pictures of some of the family outings, using both photos and my own imagination as a template. The background is my fabric rendition taken from a photo of Howard’s favorite hiking spot.
A picture of the quilt I made for Dee is in the Story Quilt section.
Story of a Life
The quilt below is an example of my own design, revealed to the client upon completion. This was my first bereavement quilt.
This pictorial quilt I made for a mother whose vibrant 35-year-old daughter was brutally murdered. This king-size quilt was made to be hung on the wall or used on a bed. The daughter is depicted as lying against a brown tree trunk beside another black tree trunk and looking out over the city of Anchorage and the mountains of Alaska beyond. Her house is shown on the right. A picture of her mother and her, as a toddler, astride a family horse is set against of fan of her colorful skirts. At the bottom is the familiar poem, a favorite of the mother’s, which begins: “Do not stand on my grave and weep, I am not there, I do not sleep . . . .” The poem is embroidered on a yellow sleeveless dress, which was the dress her daughter was wearing the last time they met. Tires are made from buttons, lace and collars are used to make roads and walkways. Even the woodpecker’s markings come from an epaulet on a jacket.
Thirty-two illustrious red hearts against black backgrounds form the border symbolizes the daughter’s warmth, vitality, and love of animals and people.
To produce a pictorial quilt, it is necessary to learn about the loved one who wore the clothes. My customer was generous with notes and pictures to guide me through the process.
Sometimes the life of a loved one can best be honored in a quilt by telling their story. The first story quilt I made was that of a policeman who raised his daughter alone. When he died, she wanted to tell that story through pictures in a quilt:
Bereavement Quilt – Story of the Life of a Policeman
I made up each block based on anecdotes told to me by Tracy, his daughter. In the closeup below, the final block shows Frank playing golf in heaven – one of his favorite activities.
Detail of Bereavement Story Quilt
The Story of Howard and Dee
I gathered a large number of photographs before making this story of the life and travels of Howard and Dee:
Story of Howard and Dee
Bereavement Quilt told in pictures
Other quilts for the son and daughter of Howard and Dee are shown under Pictorial Quilts.
Her Knight in Shining Armor
Undoubtedly my biggest undertaking was this “Castle Quilt” for a brave mother/wife who lost both her oldest son and husband in a plane crash. Her husband was her “knight in shining armor” she told me, and she wanted a castle somehow in the theme of the quilt. She sent me over 80 pictures and let me loose. This was the result:
Castle Quilt – Bereavement quilt honoring husband
This quilt was made entirely out of Bill’s clothes, except for the veil, which is hanging out the window. The pictures portray the Rooney family during happier times.
Detail of Castle Quilt